Doing whatever it takes
July 7th, 2009Yesterday morning, 7/6/09, I awakened with a feeling of deep dread. My second book signing for my new book, BDSM, is Saturday June 11–five days from yesterday and four days from today. For the past several months, I’ve been spending a lot of time on the ‘net and trying to acquaint myself with various social networking sites–Twitter in particular–in the hopes of getting the word out about myself and my books. For me, the learning curve has been steep. So, yesterday I got my suitcase, some brochures, and some flyers I’d printed up for my upcoming signings–July 11th and July 18th signings at NOTJUSTABOOKSTORE and Nubia Cafe respectively, left home and drove my 14-year-old car to a supermarket called Schnucks in a cosmopolitan neighborhood at Lindell and Sarah.
The weather was warm and sunny. The Schnucks supermarket anchors the west half of a strip mall on a vast, deep, fenced-in lot. Automobiles were concentrated near the front of the supermarket; I parked my car on the outskirts of the lot among empty parking slots. For some strange reason, I felt paranoid, like there was something about me that stood out. Then, I realized that this feeling was fear. I felt self-conscious. I felt ridiculous. I truly believe that you’re only as old as you feel, but yesterday I felt every bit the 41 years old that I am. I felt like an old man in a young man’s race. Still in my car, I fumbled with my cell phone for a minute. I unzipped my briefcase and brought out the tan bag that contained the brochures and flyers I had designed for my upcoming signings. A homeless man walked up to my car on the passenger’s side. The white man’s clothes were dingy and very loose on his tall skeletal frame. The lines on his face were long and packed with dirt. His eyes were dim; his voice was a whisper. He asked if I had any spare change and I waved him away. As I watched him walk away and other people waving him off, I felt bad. I felt like getting out of my car and running after him, but I didn’t.
I got out of my car and walked towards the store. People streamed in and out of the store’s electric doors. A security guard stood at the entrance. I went to the far end of the front entrance where I chatted with a black gentleman named Sydney; years ago, he and I were cab drivers with Yellow Cab. He was glad to see me and was surprised when I told him that I was still in the cab business; he’d long since left the cab business and had a job with the state. People walked by as we talked and I offered them my flyer. Some took my flyer; others politely declined, but most completely rebuffed me and my outstretched flyer. Rejection burns. A single rejection makes you feel like the whole world rejects you. Rejection transforms the world into a funhouse mirror. Rejection makes you feel naked and embarrassed. Acceptance is like steam– having someone to actually take a flyer, look it over, fold it, and store it away in their pants pocket or purse is fleeting gratification; rejection lasts much longer. Rejection leaves you feeling scandalized, like you want to run somewhere and hide. I began to think of people who made their living in sales–door to door salesmen, insurance salesmen, etc.–and my appreciation for these folks–their toughness– became palpable. I also became aware that my friend Sydney’s presence was both a comfort and a crutch. When Sydney left–he’d ordered some fish and had been waiting for it to be fried–I had nothing to buffer the alienation of rejection.
Despite the polite refusals or cool indifferences I met with, I learned to keep my eyes and head up, to mask my disappointment, and to keep presenting a bright–but increasingly difficult–smile and my neon-yellow flyers. I also learned by trial and error that my most receptive prospects were those who left the store. People arriving to the store were in a hurry and had little time to bother with someone trying to take more money out of their pockets. Sometimes you have to walk in another’s shoes to fully taste their experiences; now I completely understood and felt what that homeless man must have felt when I turned him down. Too many no’s can scab over, but no still hurts. But, after a while, one can develop a tolerance for no. This was how I meditated as I walked between parked cars, hop scotched around rotten banana peels, piles of saliva, spots of motor oil, and discarded food. The thickening heat, direct sunlight, and adrenaline moistened my clothes. Occasionally, someone surprised me and asked me about my book. I’d ramble off the synopsis as quickly and as clearly as I could. The yeses I got gave me optimism: I wouldn’t have gotten those yeses if I hadn’t have endured the nos.
The thick stack of flyers I arrived with became slimmer. What brought me upon the idea of passing out flyers is this: the more people who read my flyer and see my name, the better the chances that those people will remember my name. A flyer that sells a book is great, but my realistic goal for my flyers is to reinforce my name and other elements of my advertising strategy. My flyer’s bold WARNING banner and long admonition are applied to every flyer for every signing that I do. That banner and long admonition are applied to my brochure and to all of the press releases that I present the media. So far, I’ve been lucky enough to get the attention of Kristen Hinman who’s a reporter for the Riverfront Times. She interviewed me last month and was kind enough to post that interview in the June 18–24, 2009 Music Awards issue. I tested out–and received the desired reactions that I sought–my brochure, flyers, and press releases on family, friends, and strangers. My Riverfront Times interview validated my promotional literature. So my hope is that diffusing my flyers and brochures in high volume locations will burn my name into the collective consciousness–this is what I hope. Also, I believe that the internet, though, fast, effective and powerful, still can’t overcome the raw impression of face to face encounters. I delete spam from my computer everyday; however, it’s harder to say no to a live person. I’m still experimenting, but I believe that there has to be an intermingling of technology and good old fashioned salesmanship, i.e. passing out flyers, making phone calls, book signings, book readings, etc. I’m an introvert. In the old days, a writer could work behind the scenes, behind the marketing machinery of some big New York City publisher and concentrate on writing. Today, in order to have his/her words read, that writer has to be out front with her work and bring life to her work. So, I have to overcome not only the anonymity of being an unknown and independent writer/publisher, but I must also overcome the self-sabotaging limits of my introverted tendencies. These challenges–promoting and selling my book–are before me and I have to face them whether I want to or not. There are no guarantees that any of my efforts will succeed. I will write about them here. Leave a comment on my blog, email me, or call me (314 504 7264) and wish me luck.
Lusipher (Johnny Booker)
www.lusiphersbooks.com
lusiphersbooks@yahoo.com
